Responding too quickly or not at all to what teens do and say gives them the wrong message. Let them ponder their thoughts out loud so they can hear themselves think. This will allow them the opportunity to form an opinion about their own thoughts just like they do with all the other thoughts [...]

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Another reason victims keep their abuse secret is they think it will dishonor their family or friend. I explain how that, in fact, is the lie. It is the mistreatment that is dishonoring, not the messenger. Seeking the help of others is the honorable thing to do. Telling what is true, ultimately benefits the relationship. [...]

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One reason victims don’t share and thereby keep their abuse a secret, is that they know they won’t be believed. They have grown up within relationships where their voice is not respected, so they think “If I tell it won’t be believed.” In this video I explain the importance of telling others. With You in [...]

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Abuser and Victim are common terms. There are different ways of saying the same thing. I explain in this video vignette various words we use to describe this misuse of power and control in relationships. I then explain the primary dynamic that is present when these variations are used. Listen to find out what the [...]

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  Using the concept that the truth will set you free needs some clarification. What does truth mean? There are things that are true for example, it’s true you beat up your brother (if in fact you did). The truth of the matter is your brother was beat up by you. The pursuit of true [...]

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