In this video I talk about the victim mindset and particularly focus on the double mindedness of victims who refuse to live as victims but are still being victimized.

This is common among people in the process of learning to come out of their victim situations, and out of their survivor instincts, insisting that they are no longer living as victims, not realizing that they are not free from victimization yet.

In his book, “When the Body says NO” Dr Gabor Mate talks about people who live this way, putting everyone and their needs before their own. He writes about how this kind of stress can cause serious immune system weaknesses and how these people are at risk for major chronic illness.

There is a huge internal angst when a person lives as a victim of another or others. Have a look at this video as we take a look at victim mentality and its effects on people and how it is possible to live a new way of life.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

Why is it so hard for victims to change? In this video blog post I talk about how a personal agenda can hold a person in victimization. We often picture our lives according to how we define ourselves. When we define ourselves with something that has to do with someone else, such as married or with children, things can get tricky and sometimes we don’t want to let go of our original ideas.

Victims have a perspective or mindset about who their most important influence or source of truth is. Some of this has to do with the expectations they had for themselves and for their life and how they have meshed that with another person. If they put themselves under the influence of someone who is controlling, then they allow that person to define their life. I give several examples of this in the video.

In this video I talk about the power you have to change and some of the things that hold you back. Victims do have a difficult time getting out of their victimization and often need to seek some professional help from a therapist in order to sort it all out and access the power they have within themselves to effect change. If this is something you struggle with, I have a global video therapy business and if you would like to talk to me, please feel free to contact me at any time through this blog or through my counseling site at Relationship-Makeover.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz