Hers, Mine, Ours
Let’s talk about money – hers, mine, and ours. How I think about it may help you. I make money from being a therapist. Even if my wife doesn’t do anything that generates money, I consider her to be making half of my income so it is our income, not my income. It’s not just my decision as to what the money will be spent on. I’m not in charge of determining where the money is...
Read MoreThe “Do Nothing” Problem in Relationships
Some people decide to do nothing in order to avoid being wrong. That is a problem! To do nothing keeps you from being a benefit to the relationship. You may want to only be involved when you can do right. That is not how a relationship works. Relationships operate best when you participate by investing yourself as you really are now then make course corrections along the way. Doing...
Read MoreThe Power Of Separation
Have you been trying to grab the attention of your spouse to the troubles in your marriage relationship? Is it going nowhere and you are at your wits end? It has been amazing to me as a counseling therapist how powerful separation is to gain the attention of a reluctant spouse to the seriousness of the matters that tear away at the marriage harmony. It seems that when separation takes...
Read MoreAbuse, Call it What You Want, The Results are Still the Same
Abuser and Victim are common terms. There are different ways of saying the same thing. I explain in this video vignette various words we use to describe this misuse of power and control in relationships. I then explain the primary dynamic that is present when these variations are used. Listen to find out what the common result is no matter what you call...
Read MoreThe Relationship between Psychological Abuse, Stress & Illness
In this video I talk about the issues of psychological abuse and the resulting stress. I take a look at what this stress can produce in the mind and body. When a person is living with psychological abuse there is a tension that is built between what you feel you should do and doing what you are expected to do. I will give a few...
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