The Grain Bends to the Will of the Wind
I love it in the fall. The grain is ripening. The wind is blowing and the grain bends to the will of the wind. This is the analogy of how our power affects other individuals. A shear wind will break the grain to the ground making it difficult to harvest. Or the wind blows through the standing grain. The power we have is so important to be in harmony with what the grain needs. The grain...
Read MoreWhy Relationships Break Up?
Not What You First Might Think Breakups happen because of abuse and not mostly because of physical violence. It is because of what is happening at the core of the relationship. What stops the love from growing is about abuse. But that’s not easy to spot. So you’re wondering, who is the problem? You are determined to find out. This is your time. You are going to find out what is...
Read MoreCan Your Relationship Make It?
Understand It Through The Quality Of Its Power And Control Dynamics! Is your marriage stretched to the limit? Are you thinking separation or the big D is the only option left? Relationships are best understood through the quality of the Power and Control dynamics that are present in each one. Consider what Power is: it is the ability or strength or capability to do or be. This is...
Read MoreWhat Makes Therapy Effective
We as therapists are very interested in giving the help that our clients need. We are tuned in to ourselves and our clients as we make sure our therapy is improving. Two things are fundamental in our relationship with clients that help us develop better therapy. First, both the therapist and client need to have a learning attitude towards life. This makes a huge difference in the...
Read MoreHers, Mine, Ours
Let’s talk about money – hers, mine, and ours. How I think about it may help you. I make money from being a therapist. Even if my wife doesn’t do anything that generates money, I consider her to be making half of my income so it is our income, not my income. It’s not just my decision as to what the money will be spent on. I’m not in charge of determining where the money is...
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