Keeping Abuse A Secret, Why Victims Don’t Share
One reason victims don’t share and thereby keep their abuse a secret, is that they know they won’t be believed. They have grown up within relationships where their voice is not respected, so they think “If I tell it won’t be believed.” In this video I explain the importance of telling others. With You in...
Read MoreAbuse, Call it What You Want, The Results are Still the Same
Abuser and Victim are common terms. There are different ways of saying the same thing. I explain in this video vignette various words we use to describe this misuse of power and control in relationships. I then explain the primary dynamic that is present when these variations are used. Listen to find out what the common result is no matter what you call...
Read MoreAbusers Love Information
Those who misuse control over others are often extreme information gatherers. They then use that to position themselves with more control. At first it seems an innocent gathering of information but later reveals the twisted issues connected to their domination of another. In this video clip, I provide a point of view that may help you...
Read MoreStraw Thinking
Clients have often asked me to explain why their spouse, the controller, gets so focused on such trivial issues. It is because of what I call “Straw Thinking”. When the controller is so focused on such a narrow issue as though they have to make it their own “Custard’s Last Stand”, they lose track of what is important. They...
Read MoreThe Relationship between Psychological Abuse, Stress & Illness
In this video I talk about the issues of psychological abuse and the resulting stress. I take a look at what this stress can produce in the mind and body. When a person is living with psychological abuse there is a tension that is built between what you feel you should do and doing what you are expected to do. I will give a few...
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