Another reason victims keep their abuse secret is they think it will dishonor their family or friend. I explain how that, in fact, is the lie. It is the mistreatment that is dishonoring, not the messenger. Seeking the help of others is the honorable thing to do. Telling what is true, ultimately benefits the relationship. [...]
Tags: Abuse, abuse secret, abuse tactics, abusive relationship, dishonor, dishonour, human interest, manipulative control, Mental Health, power and control dynamics, power differential, Psychological Abuse, social issues, victims, violations
One reason victims don’t share and thereby keep their abuse a secret, is that they know they won’t be believed. They have grown up within relationships where their voice is not respected, so they think “If I tell it won’t be believed.” In this video I explain the importance of telling others. With You in [...]
Tags: Abuse, abuse tactics, abusive relationship, family therapy, manipulative control, power differential, Psychological Abuse, secret, victims
Abuser and Victim are common terms. There are different ways of saying the same thing. I explain in this video vignette various words we use to describe this misuse of power and control in relationships. I then explain the primary dynamic that is present when these variations are used. Listen to find out what the [...]
Tags: Abuse, abusive relationship, power and control, power and control dynamics, Psychological Abuse, relationships
Those who misuse control over others are often extreme information gatherers. They then use that to position themselves with more control. At first it seems an innocent gathering of information but later reveals the twisted issues connected to their domination of another. In this video clip, I provide a point of view that may help [...]
Tags: Abuse, abuse tactics, abusive relationship, domination, extreme, misuse of control, misuse of power, Psychological Abuse, twisted
Clients have often asked me to explain why their spouse, the controller, gets so focused on such trivial issues. It is because of what I call “Straw Thinking”. When the controller is so focused on such a narrow issue as though they have to make it their own “Custard’s Last Stand”, they lose track of [...]
Tags: abuse tactics, controller, mindset, Psychological Abuse, straw thinking, trivial issues
