What is true? In this video I talk about how we understand the definition of truth. There are many things true in your world, that are not true in mine. You have a truth about understanding reality, and so do I.

I believe that these two different definitions of truth are really different perspectives, for instance I have a belief about what a healthy relationship is which is my truth, and you have a belief that might be different then mine, which is your truth. We are talking about our individual understanding of what relationship is for us.

So what about a greater truth or universal truth? When we talk about this truth, it might be different then either one of our perspectives. I believe it is a sign of good mental health when we are on the road towards seeking the more universal truth or true truth.

I have observed that 80 to 90% of all relationship struggles have to do with not being able to move towards the “true truth”, because we are insisting on our own perspective as being the truth instead of cooperating and seeking a higher truth together.

Have a look at this video and let me know your thoughts about this concept of truth and looking at truth in a different way.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

The panel presented topics such as: client responses to online counseling, security issues, how to find a credible online therapist, and the accessibility to professional counseling especially for the handicapped. A live Q and A followed, even moving after the hour into an adjacent room to  address all the interactions from the participants.

Shortly, I will be commenting with some details on these subjects. If you are interested in viewing the panel presentation, it was recorded and will be posted here.

More conferences are likely in 2010 for the panel to expose to the world that Online Counseling is now available to the global community.

With You In Mind
Norm Quantz

Why is it so hard for victims to change? In this video blog post I talk about how a personal agenda can hold a person in victimization. We often picture our lives according to how we define ourselves. When we define ourselves with something that has to do with someone else, such as married or with children, things can get tricky and sometimes we don’t want to let go of our original ideas.

Victims have a perspective or mindset about who their most important influence or source of truth is. Some of this has to do with the expectations they had for themselves and for their life and how they have meshed that with another person. If they put themselves under the influence of someone who is controlling, then they allow that person to define their life. I give several examples of this in the video.

In this video I talk about the power you have to change and some of the things that hold you back. Victims do have a difficult time getting out of their victimization and often need to seek some professional help from a therapist in order to sort it all out and access the power they have within themselves to effect change. If this is something you struggle with, I have a global video therapy business and if you would like to talk to me, please feel free to contact me at any time through this blog or through my counseling site at Relationship-Makeover.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

Several years ago, my insurance broker started the quest to find the kind of insurance I wanted for my online therapy practice. I was specific in what I wanted and it was evident that one of the problems was that I wanted insurance that included coverage in the United States.

For those of us who live outside the USA, it is very hard to get global insurance coverage for counseling therapy that includes the United States. I didn’t want any exceptions in my coverage and it took my broker two years to find an insurance company that would cover me anywhere including in the United States.

This has been a journey for us, but I believe that the time is coming when insurance providers will be more open to the idea of this type of coverage for online therapy practices. In this video I talk about finding global coverage for my online therapy practice and how it came about. I share important details in order to save you time if you are looking for professional insurance for online counseling therapy.

I wish you all the best in your search for insurance coverage for your online therapy practice!

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

At the beginning of August 2009 a serious hail storm hit the rural community where Norm and Neva Quantz have their home office. It was a frightening and violating experience for them. In this video, Norm talks about the trauma they experienced in the middle of the night while golf ball sized hail crashed through their sky lights bringing glass and rain with it as it bounced off the living room and office floors. The rain and hail continued to assault both the inside and outside of their home while they stood helplessly and fearfully watching and wondering when this violation would end.

Norm uses this experience to illustrate the repercussions of trauma that he sees daily in his private practice with his clients. The serious effects of sexual abuse, assault or childhood trauma, car accidents and sudden deaths are all traumatic emotional events which have lasting effects. He discusses the importance of the treatment process; of going through the details of the trauma in order to understand it, and in many cases of trauma, the importance of seeking the help of a qualified therapist in order to heal.

This video was made while the reconstruction of the roof was going on, so you will hear some of the banging and hammering. Have a look and please feel free to ask questions or comment.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

In this video I tell a story about an elephant and a mouse to illustrate the power differential that exists between men and women. The application that you can take from this illustration assists in understanding the reactions and interactions that take place between males and females. For the most part, men are unaware of this difference in power, as is the elephant when in a room with a mouse.

As you look at this interpretation of male and female relationships, particularly when there are huge power differences, both are valuable and both have value within that relationship as equals but the power difference between them is immensely different. If you take a look at relationships through that grid, then the interpretation of responses, reactions, input and the even the sharing in of information between men and women in a relationship, reveals a whole new picture.

With You in Mind
Norm Quantz

50 – 50 implies equal responsibility, roles, acceptance, and prominence; these are all 50/50 ideas that people really struggle to put into practice. The concept sounds great but equality doesn’t seem to work as well in practice as it does in theory.

What is the actual power of each person in the marriage or relationship? In almost every relationship, there is a different level of power present and I believe that makes a difference, so when people try to be absolutely equal it gets mixed up and confused. What is revealed when the issue of power is more closely examined within the relationship?

In this video I offer a different perspective about equality as I introduce the huge subject of power differential in relationships. I take a look at power and the power differences in a marriage or relationship between two people. I use some examples of these differences and how the issue of equal can be in question.

I welcome comments, questions and feedback on this most interesting topic.

With you in Mind,
Norm Quantz