You may wonder if dissociation is always wrong, or if it is always an indicator of a problem. In this final video of the 5 part series on dissociative identity disorder and multiple personality disorder issues, I talk about the difference between normal dissociation and destructive dissociation.

In this series I have been talking about the type of dissociation which became necessary in order to survive abuse, and how when there has been a pattern of abuse, learning to disconnect and dissociate has been the only escape and the only place that feels safe. Dissociative identity becomes a relief and an answer for these people. It becomes the coping method they use to deal with life itself.

Is disconnecting always a problem? I give a few examples of normal disconnect such as we see when watching young children involved in their play. Even as adults we can disconnect or dissociate in a healthy and normal way, for example when caught up in the excitement of planning a vacation but as long as we can still come back to the present, live in reality and be able to carry out our responsibilities, this is not a worry.

Have a look at this video as I wrap up this 5 part series on multiple personality and dissociative identity disorder. I hope that you have enjoyed it and please feel free to comment or post your questions in the comment form.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

I mentioned in the first video in this series about multiple personalities and dissociative identity disorders that I would talk about the importance of having an independent mindset.

Although I realize that this is a controversial subject, I believe that in the very nature of human beings is the need to grow out of childhood and dependence and into independent mindset.

The reason that DID and MPD are referred to a disorder is because there is a lot of chaos in the life of a person struggling with multiple personalities or alter personalities. To take personal responsibility for what is ours, to respond to our responsibilities and to know what that means are very important parts of our mental wellbeing. In regards to DID or MPD, the importance of having the knowledge of who you are, is a key factor in becoming one person.

Have a look at this video as we take a look at why an independent mindset is so important to understand both to the struggling person with dissociative issues and to the person who is trying to become whole.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

Due to some of the unique issues related to working with a client who has an eating disorder, there are some really advantageous aspects of having therapy sessions online.

Many people with eating disorders have a need to be in control at all times and one of the benefits of online counseling is that they get a greater amount of control over the session in the online counseling room. Eating disordered clients have some fears about being alone in the counseling room with the therapist which requires a comfort level adjustment that is not necessary with video counseling. The online environment is easier to adjust to then the a counseling office with an in person therapist.

In this video Norm talks about some of the benefits of counseling clients with eating disorders, using his online platform. Online counseling for eating disorders is very effective.
Please have a look at this video and click below to leave your comments.

With You in Mind
Norm Quantz

It’s helpful in life if we anticipate some of the hurdles we might come across and prepare a little bit for how we will handle them.

In this video I talk about the book “Flight Plan ~ The Real Secret of Success” by Brian Tracy and I read something that Brian writes in reference to being prepared for some of the unexpected and often difficult events that may occur in our business life.

Being prepared increases our chances for success. Have a look at the following video and feel free to add your own ideas or suggestions.

To Your Success,
Norm Quantz

Flight Plan ~The Real Secret of Success by Brian Tracy
Berrett Koehler 2008
Referencing pages 85 and 86

Are you one of those people who has a passion for making a difference in society?

Sometimes when people feel strongly about a certain cause or organization, they find fulfilment in getting involved such as volunteering for a certain yearly event or serving on the board of directors. Usually when someone is passionate about a certain job, they do really well at it and often times they get asked to move up to a different position. Sometimes however, the new position isn’t exactly suited to the person being asked to do it.

In this video I talk about the difficulty that some people have in saying no and offer a new way to think about this powerful little word.

Please feel free to comment or share your own stories.

With You in Mind,
Norm Quantz

In this video I talk about the insidious tactic of “playing dumb. It’s a very insidious tactic because it asks for support from the victim. This tactic falls under the category of withholding since it is about withholding intelligence from a situation. When a psychologically abusive person withholds intelligence, they actually try to act like they really don’t know anything about the subject at hand.

The victim believes that they can help provide the information, and help their partner out by contributing their own knowledge about the situation but it is a set up. The controller in the situation withholds his information and intelligence from the discussion. She ends up feeling tricked; she has been drawn into the conversation under false pretence. He withholds himself and his involvement and it produces an anxiety in the relationship.

This tactic is a very powerful manipulative tool in the guise of this pretend world of playing dumb. Have a look and let me know what you think.

With You in Mind
Norm Quantz

In previous videos, I’ve been talking about coping methods and moving from coping to conquering. In this video I talk about anxiety as a coping method. When it becomes evident that something is going on, but often times it isn’t obvious enough for a person to know what it is.

Anxiety can show itself outwardly in reactions, physical activity, agitation, barking back, and other times it is very inward and personal, a private world within, while appearing on the outside as calm, happy and bubbly.

How do you move from coping by using anxiety, to conquering? Take a look at this video as I go deeper into the issue of coping via anxiety. I often find that anxiety is a reaction to some manipulation or pressure the person feels. It is a way that they are counteracting not being valued. Anxiety is often the reactive coping method that they are using to handle the stresses that are coming their way.

I’m interested in your comments, questions and feedback.

With You in Mind,
Norm