Why Relationships Break Up?
Not What You First Might Think Breakups happen because of abuse and not mostly because of physical violence. It is because of what is happening at the core of the relationship. What stops the love from growing is about abuse. But that’s not easy to spot. So you’re wondering, who is the problem? You are determined to find out. This is your time. You are going to find out what is...
Read MoreCan Your Relationship Make It?
Understand It Through The Quality Of Its Power And Control Dynamics! Is your marriage stretched to the limit? Are you thinking separation or the big D is the only option left? Relationships are best understood through the quality of the Power and Control dynamics that are present in each one. Consider what Power is: it is the ability or strength or capability to do or be. This is...
Read MoreKeeping Abuse A Secret, Why Victims Don’t Share – Reason #2
Another reason victims keep their abuse secret is they think it will dishonor their family or friend. I explain how that, in fact, is the lie. It is the mistreatment that is dishonoring, not the messenger. Seeking the help of others is the honorable thing to do. Telling what is true, ultimately benefits the relationship. It is only in living real that you will have the opportunity to...
Read MoreKeeping Abuse A Secret, Why Victims Don’t Share
One reason victims don’t share and thereby keep their abuse a secret, is that they know they won’t be believed. They have grown up within relationships where their voice is not respected, so they think “If I tell it won’t be believed.” In this video I explain the importance of telling others. With You in...
Read MoreAbuse, Call it What You Want, The Results are Still the Same
Abuser and Victim are common terms. There are different ways of saying the same thing. I explain in this video vignette various words we use to describe this misuse of power and control in relationships. I then explain the primary dynamic that is present when these variations are used. Listen to find out what the common result is no matter what you call...
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