Abuse

Don’t Shoot The Messenger

  Here are two wrongs I want to correct. First, you may be told by your abuser and his family and friends that if you report the abuse you will cause the breakup of the family. I want you to know, that is a most twisted concept. You are the messenger reporting the one that caused it. The results are to be laid solely on the abuser and those that coddle that type of behaviour. Secondly, you...

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Preparing to Report Abuse

  When you have found the courage to tell your sexual abuse story to the police here are a couple things you may find helpful. Make an appointment to Report. This will allow the corporal to designate a seasoned officer with this speciality to take your report. It will also mean one less thing to worry about when you enter the detachment because they will be expecting you. You won’t have...

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Courage to Report Sexual Abuse

  Yes, it takes courage to report abuse that has or is happening to you. I trust this will help you garner the courage to do it. It’s important to report but you may not feel ready. Your hesitancy may be in part because you heard reports of bad experiences such as those that were not believed. Police are trained now to know how to investigate sexual abuse cases. The stories many say are...

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Steps To Move Your Relationship Forward

  Particularly If You Have A NH-AWS Relationship This video considers the importance of Power and Control dynamics in your close relationships such as your marriage. Then I introduce you to a new Syndrome I have called the NH-AWS, the Nice Husband-Anxious Wife Syndrome and explain how that may be affecting the health of your relationship. And finally I outline some steps to move you forward...

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Why Relationships Break Up?

  Not What You First Might Think   Breakups happen because of abuse and not mostly because of physical violence. It is because of what is happening at the core of the relationship. What stops the love from growing is about abuse. But that’s not easy to spot. So you’re wondering, who is the problem? You are determined to find out. This is your time. You are going to find out what is...

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