Those who misuse control over others are often extreme information gatherers. They then use that to position themselves with more control. At first it seems an innocent gathering of information but later reveals the twisted issues connected to their domination of another. In this video clip, I provide a [...]

Tags: Abuse, abuse tactics, abusive relationship, domination, extreme, misuse of control, misuse of power, Psychological Abuse, twisted

Clients have often asked me to explain why their spouse, the controller, gets so focused on such trivial issues. It is because of what I call “Straw Thinking”. When the controller is so focused on such a narrow issue as though they have to make it their own “Custard’s [...]

Tags: abuse tactics, controller, mindset, Psychological Abuse, straw thinking, trivial issues

Controllers are adept at mixing the good with the bad. Double-Mindedness is presented as multi-tasking and congruity. In this video I touch on the way they really are and expose the way to distinguish their differences. Recognizing those differences can help you resist being caught up in the deception [...]

Tags: abuse tactics, congruity, double mindedness, manipulative control, multi tasking

I am very excited! My very first book is now published and ready to be shared.
In just a few days it will be available on Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble and others.
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Tags: abuse tactics, abusive relationship, book, marriage counseling, marriage help, marriage problems, power and control dynamics, relationship authority

This video continues with the discussion of “its not right or wrong”, this time on the side of wrong, highlighting how psychological abusers love it when those around them choose to stay on the side of neutral.

Tags: abuse tactics, equality in relationship, marriage therapist, Mental Health, Parents, power and control, Psychological Abuse, relationship authority, Relationship therapist