Comments for NormQuantz.com http://www.normquantz.com Counsellor, Author, Relationship Expert, Video Blog About Therapy and Mental Health Tue, 14 Feb 2012 20:02:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Can Your Relationship Make It? by Marriage | Divorce May Not Be Your Only Option, But If It Is, There Are Familiar Patterns To A Breakup http://www.normquantz.com/2011/07/can-your-relationship-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-70594 Marriage | Divorce May Not Be Your Only Option, But If It Is, There Are Familiar Patterns To A Breakup Tue, 14 Feb 2012 20:02:35 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=975#comment-70594 [...] up against. Note: To learn more about those dynamics, review the earlier postings in this series. ( Part A, Part B, Part [...] [...] up against. Note: To learn more about those dynamics, review the earlier postings in this series. ( Part A, Part B, Part [...]

]]> Comment on Christmas Greetings by Dan Woodard http://www.normquantz.com/2011/12/christmas-greetings/comment-page-1/#comment-70586 Dan Woodard Sun, 25 Dec 2011 19:28:32 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=1862#comment-70586 Merry Christmas from the Woodard clan to you and Neva! Merry Christmas from the Woodard clan to you and Neva!

]]> Comment on Courage to Report Sexual Abuse by Norm http://www.normquantz.com/2011/12/courage-to-report-sexual-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-70585 Norm Fri, 16 Dec 2011 04:52:20 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=1795#comment-70585 Thanks Steve for your comments and your work in abuse issues. I also deal with the perpetrators. So often when the perpetrator is reported, media attention is focused on the perpetrator while the victims fade into the background. In working with perpetrators, if you wish to comment, what has been the most useful in your practice for moving their self focus to recognize the pain they caused the victim? Thanks Steve for your comments and your work in abuse issues.
I also deal with the perpetrators. So often when the perpetrator is reported, media attention is focused on the perpetrator while the victims fade into the background. In working with perpetrators, if you wish to comment, what has been the most useful in your practice for moving their self focus to recognize the pain they caused the victim?

]]> Comment on Courage to Report Sexual Abuse by Steve Litt http://www.normquantz.com/2011/12/courage-to-report-sexual-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-70583 Steve Litt Thu, 15 Dec 2011 05:28:29 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=1795#comment-70583 Great point about reporting sexual abuse. It is very timely but has also been timely for decades. I think one thing that needs a lot more emphasis is that the perpatrators can become suicidal after being found out. We need to look after them, too. Sometimes the suicides involve getting police to shoot them or driving into something. I have had both in my practice. The reporting victim often is retraumatized if the perp does kill himself, especially if someone else is injured or killed. Keep up the good work, Norm. Steve Great point about reporting sexual abuse. It is very timely but has also been timely for decades. I think one thing that needs a lot more emphasis is that the perpatrators can become suicidal after being found out. We need to look after them, too. Sometimes the suicides involve getting police to shoot them or driving into something. I have had both in my practice.

The reporting victim often is retraumatized if the perp does kill himself, especially if someone else is injured or killed.
Keep up the good work, Norm. Steve

]]> Comment on The Relationship between Psychological Abuse, Stress & Illness by Online therapy http://www.normquantz.com/2010/01/the-relationship-between-psychological-abuse-stress-illness/comment-page-1/#comment-70582 Online therapy Fri, 09 Dec 2011 14:59:04 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=593#comment-70582 Bipolar disorder is defined by shifts in mood, energy and activity levels. The shifts in mood are distinguished by periods of joy or overexcitement (manic episode) and periods of extreme sadness or feelings of hopelessness (depressive episode). Bipolar disorder is defined by shifts in mood, energy and activity levels. The shifts in mood are distinguished by periods of joy or overexcitement (manic episode) and periods of extreme sadness or feelings of hopelessness (depressive episode).

]]> Comment on Its All About Power and Control by Karen Bayley, Spiritual Care and Counseling MAR MA http://www.normquantz.com/services/books/its-all-about-power-and-control/comment-page-1/#comment-70581 Karen Bayley, Spiritual Care and Counseling MAR MA Tue, 06 Dec 2011 18:26:49 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?page_id=627#comment-70581 I am a counselor and deal extensively with clients where issues of abusive power and control are destroying relationships. I have found the book particularly effective in therapy , as clients are assigned to read a portion weekly, identify areas where they see their behavior, and then we discuss it in the sessions. It is a wonderful tool to crack the denial of both the abuser and the abused. I would highly recommend it as a tool for professionals working in this area of therapeutic intervention with couples, but it is also very readable for interested individuals who want to better understand how power and control used abusively is so very destructive. I am a counselor and deal extensively with clients where issues of abusive power and control are destroying relationships. I have found the book particularly effective in therapy , as clients are assigned to read a portion weekly, identify areas where they see their behavior, and then we discuss it in the sessions. It is a wonderful tool to crack the denial of both the abuser and the abused. I would highly recommend it as a tool for professionals working in this area of therapeutic intervention with couples, but it is also very readable for interested individuals who want to better understand how power and
control used abusively is so very destructive.

]]> Comment on Responding Ethically to a Crisis Situation Online by Norm http://www.normquantz.com/2009/05/responding-ethically-to-a-crisis-situation-online/comment-page-1/#comment-2664 Norm Fri, 18 Sep 2009 21:12:41 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=121#comment-2664 Thanks for asking: The issue of insurance coverage for online therapy is one of the hurdles that web-based therapists have to jump. Until the insurance industry catches up with the move to online professional services, individuals will need to personally pursue a policy. Along with my insurance broker, I have been able to stir some excitement with an insurance company to cover my global practice. But many companies are still reluctant. This is an emerging business opportunity/service for insurance companies and I believe it needs to be presented to them in this way. Because of regulations that restrict certain advertisements by insurance companiesand broker licensing restrictions, they are not allowed to promote or claim on the web that they will or will not be able to serve your global insurance needs, at least not yet. I do have permission to invite your personal inquiry and personally direct you to information that is available. I am not offering this because I have financial gain from a referral, I don’t. But out of my interest in helping colleagues like you get insurance for an online practice, I am willing to tell you what I know. I will be addressing more about this in the near future on my blog and in www.imagefacetoface.com , the business and education HUB for therapists and health professionals. I would invite anyone interested in online practice insurance to share what your country offers. Then, if you are from Canada, I may be able to help connect some dots for you if you contact me through the contact button on this blog. Norm Quantz Thanks for asking:

The issue of insurance coverage for online therapy is one of the hurdles that web-based therapists have to jump. Until the insurance industry catches up with the move to online professional services, individuals will need to personally pursue a policy. Along with my insurance broker, I have been able to stir some excitement with an insurance company to cover my global practice. But many companies are still reluctant. This is an emerging business opportunity/service for insurance companies and I believe it needs to be presented to them in this way. Because of regulations that restrict certain advertisements by insurance companiesand broker licensing restrictions, they are not allowed to promote or claim on the web that they will or will not be able to serve your global insurance needs, at least not yet.

I do have permission to invite your personal inquiry and personally direct you to information that is available. I am not offering this because I have financial gain from a referral, I don’t. But out of my interest in helping colleagues like you get insurance for an online practice, I am willing to tell you what I know.

I will be addressing more about this in the near future on my blog and in http://www.imagefacetoface.com , the business and education HUB for therapists and health professionals.

I would invite anyone interested in online practice insurance to share what your country offers. Then, if you are from Canada, I may be able to help connect some dots for you if you contact me through the contact button on this blog.

Norm Quantz

]]> Comment on Responding Ethically to a Crisis Situation Online by Karen W. http://www.normquantz.com/2009/05/responding-ethically-to-a-crisis-situation-online/comment-page-1/#comment-2565 Karen W. Mon, 14 Sep 2009 16:38:05 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=121#comment-2565 Hello Norm: I am interested in expanding my services to include online/video sessions, and have been told by several insurance providers that they will not pay for this form of counseling. They, in fact, were surprised by the question. What do you know about insurance companines getting on board with onlline/video counseling? Frankly, I was surprised at their surprise at the question! Karen Waugh Hello Norm:

I am interested in expanding my services to include online/video sessions, and have been told by several insurance providers that they will not pay for this form of counseling. They, in fact, were surprised by the question. What do you know about insurance companines getting on board with onlline/video counseling? Frankly, I was surprised at their surprise at the question!

Karen Waugh

]]> Comment on Psychological Abuse ~ Restricting Activity by Norm http://www.normquantz.com/2009/07/psychological-abuse-restricting-activity/comment-page-1/#comment-1672 Norm Sat, 15 Aug 2009 06:00:00 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=241#comment-1672 To Questioning: Thanks for your question about who is responsible for "aligning" these misinterpretations. It is not so much that anyone aligns these (like the therapist you mention) but that the client relays 'their' interpretation of the context. It is their interpretation of everything that they respond to, learn to cope with, and eventually weave those interpretations into their belief system, that remains into adulthood. I said, "Inaccuracies, if any, are in the contextual interpretation of their memory." In getting the client to relay what happened, it is their perception of the event and any contextual memories that are most important. Whether remembered accurately or not is not the initial issue. What is perceived is. Even though your comment about the inaccuracies of eye-witnesses, their perspectives are not ignored, but woven together to add what they can to the accurate picture. Personal, eye-witness testimony is very powerful in our system of justice. Even so, eye-witnesses are also not as personally involved as in the nature of the cases a therapist deals with. The client is relaying their own personal experience with events, not as a second person observer. It is their interpretation of their experience that is the key focus. That information, combined with what is known already about their patterns of behavior/thinking/feelings, help connect the developmental influences with the current reasons they struggle with certain areas of life today. It helps answer client questions and is what they are often so appreciative because it addresses the "why" of their current ways of living. Warmly, Norm Quantz To Questioning:
Thanks for your question about who is responsible for “aligning” these misinterpretations. It is not so much that anyone aligns these (like the therapist you mention) but that the client relays ‘their’ interpretation of the context. It is their interpretation of everything that they respond to, learn to cope with, and eventually weave those interpretations into their belief system, that remains into adulthood. I said, “Inaccuracies, if any, are in the contextual interpretation of their memory.” In getting the client to relay what happened, it is their perception of the event and any contextual memories that are most important. Whether remembered accurately or not is not the initial issue. What is perceived is.
Even though your comment about the inaccuracies of eye-witnesses, their perspectives are not ignored, but woven together to add what they can to the accurate picture. Personal, eye-witness testimony is very powerful in our system of justice. Even so, eye-witnesses are also not as personally involved as in the nature of the cases a therapist deals with. The client is relaying their own personal experience with events, not as a second person observer. It is their interpretation of their experience that is the key focus.

That information, combined with what is known already about their patterns of behavior/thinking/feelings, help connect the developmental influences with the current reasons they struggle with certain areas of life today. It helps answer client questions and is what they are often so appreciative because it addresses the “why” of their current ways of living.
Warmly,
Norm Quantz

]]> Comment on Psychological Abuse ~ Restricting Activity by Questioning http://www.normquantz.com/2009/07/psychological-abuse-restricting-activity/comment-page-1/#comment-1657 Questioning Fri, 14 Aug 2009 04:51:09 +0000 http://www.normquantz.com/?p=241#comment-1657 You mention that any errors or falsities are mainly due to contextual misinterpretations of the client. Who is responsible for "aligning" these misinterpretations and how is it possible for a therapist so far removed from the actual event to re-interpret these contexts? It would seem to the writer that any interpretation risked being just as inaccurate. Even law enforcement personnel know how varied "eye-witness" accounts can be. You mention that any errors or falsities are mainly due to contextual misinterpretations of the client. Who is responsible for “aligning” these misinterpretations and how is it possible for a therapist so far removed from the actual event to re-interpret these contexts? It would seem to the writer that any interpretation risked being just as inaccurate. Even law enforcement personnel know how varied “eye-witness” accounts can be.

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