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		<title>Abusers Love Information</title>
		<link>http://www.normquantz.com/2010/topic/power-control/abusers-love-information/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Jun 2010 16:13:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Psychological Abuse]]></category>
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Those who misuse control over others are often extreme information gatherers. They then use that to position themselves with more control. At first it seems an innocent gathering of information but later reveals the twisted issues connected to their domination of another. In this video clip, I provide a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Happens When You Shut Down</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Jun 2010 15:28:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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When you shut down in a relationship there are ripple effects for others. For example, they are left to guess what you are thinking. You experience a ripple effect as well such as keeping things inside you results in reactions to reactions that often spin you into a hole [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dabbling with the Dark Side</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jun 2010 14:20:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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When children, teens or even adults Dabble with the Dark Side, it is often their reaction to their loss of power in their current life situation. The appeal is for them to be in charge of something. They may show this tendency in their gaming choices, their internet interests, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Crazy Making from Conflicted Thinking</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 07 May 2010 20:00:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[truth]]></category>
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Have you felt that “he’s driving me crazy?” I address that issue showing how you may be trying to weave very thin threads of truth that the controller gives you and you’re attempting to make a tapestry out of such meagre points. It doesn’t work. Victims try to believe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Wasn’t That A Party!</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 07 May 2010 00:18:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[book]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[celebration]]></category>
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Thank you to all who attended my party last weekend!
Close to 50 family, friends, and colleagues came from all over Alberta to the Sundre Golf and Country Clubhouse to celebrate the publication of my first book. The effort you made in coming and the encouragement you shared will be remembered for as long as I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Straw Thinking</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 03 May 2010 15:47:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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Clients have often asked me to explain why their spouse, the controller, gets so focused on such trivial issues. It is because of what I call “Straw Thinking”. When the controller is so focused on such a narrow issue as though they have to make it their own “Custard’s [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Why Controllers Develop Double Minded Thinking</title>
		<link>http://www.normquantz.com/2010/topic/mental-health/why-controllers-develop-double-minded-thinking/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Apr 2010 16:37:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Mental Health]]></category>
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There is an unstable nature to someone who is Double Minded. The reason this happens is because a controlling person is consumed with their success or failure of getting someone to comply with their expectations that they lose track of pursuing what is true, right and wholesome.
With You in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Multi-Tasking, Congruity, and Double Mindedness</title>
		<link>http://www.normquantz.com/2010/topic/power-control/multi-tasking-congruity-and-double-mindedness/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Apr 2010 17:29:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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Controllers are adept at mixing the good with the bad. Double-Mindedness is presented as multi-tasking and congruity. In this video I touch on the way they really are and expose the way to distinguish their differences. Recognizing those differences can help you resist being caught up in the deception [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Power and Control, The Destructive Nature</title>
		<link>http://www.normquantz.com/2010/topic/power-control/power-and-control-the-destructive-nature/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Apr 2010 19:43:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[power and control dynamics]]></category>
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The Seminar &#8211; Power and Control: The Destructive Nature &#8211; Online for the First Time
A tried and true seminar is now being offered online. Along with Neva, I have taught the seminar Power and Control: The Destructive Nature for over 15 years. Participants have expressed how valuable this course [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Guest On A New Radio Show</title>
		<link>http://www.normquantz.com/2010/topic/marriage/guest-on-a-new-radio-show/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Mar 2010 23:06:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Norm</dc:creator>
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I had the privilege to be the first guest on Michael Levin&#8217;s new radio show called: LAST HOUSE ON THE BLOCK. This show will be a regular noon hour feature (EST), Monday &#8211; Friday on WVNJ-AM Radio 1160 in the New Jersey, New York, Manhattan and Connecticut areas. It [...]]]></description>
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