Abuser and Victim are common terms. There are different ways of saying the same thing. I explain in this video vignette various words we use to describe this misuse of power and control in relationships. I then explain the primary dynamic that is present when these variations are used. Listen to find out what the [...]
Tags: Abuse, abusive relationship, power and control, power and control dynamics, Psychological Abuse, relationships
Those who misuse control over others are often extreme information gatherers. They then use that to position themselves with more control. At first it seems an innocent gathering of information but later reveals the twisted issues connected to their domination of another. In this video clip, I provide a point of view that may help [...]
Tags: Abuse, abuse tactics, abusive relationship, domination, extreme, misuse of control, misuse of power, Psychological Abuse, twisted
When you shut down in a relationship there are ripple effects for others. For example, they are left to guess what you are thinking. You experience a ripple effect as well such as keeping things inside you results in reactions to reactions that often spin you into a hole that drains your energy. This video [...]
Tags: emotion, relationship, ripple effect, self correct, share, talk
When children, teens or even adults Dabble with the Dark Side, it is often their reaction to their loss of power in their current life situation. The appeal is for them to be in charge of something. They may show this tendency in their gaming choices, their internet interests, or their choice of friends and [...]
Tags: adrenalin, children, hormonal, kids, power, risk, risky, suicidal, suicide, teens, value
Have you felt that “he’s driving me crazy?” I address that issue showing how you may be trying to weave very thin threads of truth that the controller gives you and you’re attempting to make a tapestry out of such meagre points. It doesn’t work. Victims try to believe their controller, but conflicted thinking isn’t [...]
Tags: abusive tactics, conflicted thinking, context, truth, victim mindset
