Straw Thinking
Clients have often asked me to explain why their spouse, the controller, gets so focused on such trivial issues. It is because of what I call “Straw Thinking”. When the controller is so focused on such a narrow issue as though they have to make it their own “Custard’s Last Stand”, they lose track of what is important. They...
Read MoreWhy Controllers Develop Double Minded Thinking
There is an unstable nature to someone who is Double Minded. The reason this happens is because a controlling person is consumed with their success or failure of getting someone to comply with their expectations that they lose track of pursuing what is true, right and wholesome. With You in Mind,...
Read MoreMulti-Tasking, Congruity, and Double Mindedness
Controllers are adept at mixing the good with the bad. Double-Mindedness is presented as multi-tasking and congruity. In this video I touch on the way they really are and expose the way to distinguish their differences. Recognizing those differences can help you resist being caught up in the deception of a controller’s mindless...
Read MoreThe Relationship between Psychological Abuse, Stress & Illness
In this video I talk about the issues of psychological abuse and the resulting stress. I take a look at what this stress can produce in the mind and body. When a person is living with psychological abuse there is a tension that is built between what you feel you should do and doing what you are expected to do. I will give a few...
Read MoreThe Importance of Having an Independent Mindset ~DID Part 4
I mentioned in the first video in this series about multiple personalities and dissociative identity disorders that I would talk about the importance of having an independent mindset. Although I realize that this is a controversial subject, I believe that in the very nature of human beings is the need to grow out of childhood and...
Read MoreHow Abusive Control can lead to Producing Alter Personalities
It is important to understand how control works and how it contributes to a person’s struggle inside to be one or to be whole. The alters serve the purpose of representing the personality who sought freedom or escape from the situation that was out of their control. The alter personalities also keep the person from living as one whole...
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