Another reason victims keep their abuse secret is they think it will dishonor their family or friend. I explain how that, in fact, is the lie. It is the mistreatment that is dishonoring, not the messenger. Seeking the help of others is the honorable thing to do. Telling what is true, ultimately benefits the relationship. [...]

Tags: Abuse, abuse secret, abuse tactics, abusive relationship, dishonor, dishonour, human interest, manipulative control, Mental Health, power and control dynamics, power differential, Psychological Abuse, social issues, victims, violations

One reason victims don’t share and thereby keep their abuse a secret, is that they know they won’t be believed. They have grown up within relationships where their voice is not respected, so they think “If I tell it won’t be believed.” In this video I explain the importance of telling others. With You in [...]

Tags: Abuse, abuse tactics, abusive relationship, family therapy, manipulative control, power differential, Psychological Abuse, secret, victims

Abuser and Victim are common terms. There are different ways of saying the same thing. I explain in this video vignette various words we use to describe this misuse of power and control in relationships. I then explain the primary dynamic that is present when these variations are used. Listen to find out what the [...]

Tags: Abuse, abusive relationship, power and control, power and control dynamics, Psychological Abuse, relationships

Those who misuse control over others are often extreme information gatherers. They then use that to position themselves with more control. At first it seems an innocent gathering of information but later reveals the twisted issues connected to their domination of another. In this video clip, I provide a point of view that may help [...]

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Have you felt that “he’s driving me crazy?” I address that issue showing how you may be trying to weave very thin threads of truth that the controller gives you and you’re attempting to make a tapestry out of such meagre points. It doesn’t work. Victims try to believe their controller, but conflicted thinking isn’t [...]

Tags: abusive tactics, conflicted thinking, context, truth, victim mindset