Steps To Move Your Relationship Forward
Particularly If You Have A NH-AWS Relationship This video considers the importance of Power and Control dynamics in your close relationships such as your marriage. Then I introduce you to a new Syndrome I have called the NH-AWS, the Nice Husband-Anxious Wife Syndrome and explain how that may be affecting the health of your relationship. And finally I outline some steps to move you forward...
Read MoreWhy Relationships Break Up?
Not What You First Might Think Breakups happen because of abuse and not mostly because of physical violence. It is because of what is happening at the core of the relationship. What stops the love from growing is about abuse. But that’s not easy to spot. So you’re wondering, who is the problem? You are determined to find out. This is your time. You are going to find out what is...
Read MoreCan Your Relationship Make It?
Understand It Through The Quality Of Its Power And Control Dynamics! Is your marriage stretched to the limit? Are you thinking separation or the big D is the only option left? Relationships are best understood through the quality of the Power and Control dynamics that are present in each one. Consider what Power is: it is the ability or strength or capability to do or be. This is...
Read MoreHers, Mine, Ours
Let’s talk about money – hers, mine, and ours. How I think about it may help you. I make money from being a therapist. Even if my wife doesn’t do anything that generates money, I consider her to be making half of my income so it is our income, not my income. It’s not just my decision as to what the money will be spent on. I’m not in charge of determining where the money is...
Read MoreThe “Do Nothing” Problem in Relationships
Some people decide to do nothing in order to avoid being wrong. That is a problem! To do nothing keeps you from being a benefit to the relationship. You may want to only be involved when you can do right. That is not how a relationship works. Relationships operate best when you participate by investing yourself as you really are now then make course corrections along the way. Doing...
Read MoreThe Power Of Separation
Have you been trying to grab the attention of your spouse to the troubles in your marriage relationship? Is it going nowhere and you are at your wits end? It has been amazing to me as a counseling therapist how powerful separation is to gain the attention of a reluctant spouse to the seriousness of the matters that tear away at the marriage harmony. It seems that when separation takes...
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